Recently, I've been given the task of being a "susser" by my adorable god brother whom I can't say "NO" to. He has fallen in love, and wants to know if she - a good girlfriend of mine - feels the same. So I've been assigned his official susser.
This incident fueled my curiosity on how infatuations occur. Her reply being "there's no chemistry", I decided to find out just what IS this chemistry we keep talking about. It is interesting to find out that there are actually love junkies out there who are hooked on the 3 drugs released when you're "head over heels" with someone. Epinephrine which makes you feel good, norephinephrine which gets your heart racing, and PEA - Phenyehylene. PEA is the chemical that is also released when you identify someone who reminds you of your relationship with your mom/dad. Would that explain why people in love also inveritably act like children? Food for thought.
Sadly, your body builds resistance to these 3 chemicals over time, varying from 6 months to 3 years. This explains the "relationship cycle" period of different people. The person who ends a relationship after 6 months is no different from someone who ends his relationships after 3 years - they're all victims of their own bodies' chemistry.
I guess this is good news for my godbrother - his infatuation with my friend should be over in a year or two. What lesson can be gained here? If you had the "hots" for someone, so to speak, you should probably check out his (or her) father (or mother). If you're no where like them, you should probably move on. Hmm this might also be the answer to why arranged marriages have such low levels of divorce. If birds of the feather flock together, parents would most likely arrange marriages with families whose sons/daughters have the same morals and values as themselves. Maybe our ancestors knew more about love than we give them credit for.
